I lived in fear. Fear is a powerful force. Fear coupled with a society that, consciously or unconsciously, imposes its standards on you, without regard for your individuality, can be debilitating to the psyche. For so many years I suppressed my dreams and desires. I feared rejection and failure. This fear made me work hardContinue reading “Why Me”
Author Archives: Tonza D. Ruffin
Using My Time Wisely
IMAGINE ME BREATHING A HUGE SIGH OF RELIEF AND SMILING FROM EAR TO EAR AS YOU READ THIS LIST OF 5 THINGS I’VE DONE WHILE BEING SNUGGLED UP IN MY HOME. I finally OPTED OUT. I don’t know about you, but my mailbox is usually filled with stuff that I just move from the mailbox toContinue reading “Using My Time Wisely”
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It Is 2020 and the U.S. is Still Fighting Over the Equal Rights Amendment…
“Equality of rights under the law shall not be denied or abridged by the United States or by any state on account of sex.” -section 1 of the equal rights amendment Since 1972 people have been fighting to validate the Equal Rights Amendment so that it can become law in our country. Unfortunately, it tookContinue reading “It Is 2020 and the U.S. is Still Fighting Over the Equal Rights Amendment…”
Teen Dating Violence
If you have never had a conversation with your teenager about teen dating violence, you should. Teen dating violence is more common than one would care to think. And, sorry to disappoint all of you that believe your kids tell you everything. They don’t. According to a study conducted by Teenage Research Unlimited, 67% ofContinue reading “Teen Dating Violence”
Let’s Talk About Auto Insurance
The younger generation has no patience with us Gen Xs! Or maybe it is just my daughters. I will admit, I am a little technologically challenged. Before I ask them to show me something on the computer or my phone, I have to mentally prepare myself for the sigh and eye roll that always seemsContinue reading “Let’s Talk About Auto Insurance”
Behind Closed Doors -An Excerpt
Here is an excerpt from my fictional ebook Behind Closed Doors. Behind Closed Doors is 4 short stories about professional households living with domestic violence. …After five hours in the emergency room, she was relieved to learn that her nose was not broken. Once all of her paperwork was completed and the nurse had left,Continue reading “Behind Closed Doors -An Excerpt”
Vibin’ With Psychotherapist Keischa Pruden
I had such a great conversation with psychotherapist Keischa Pruden about mental health. I figured sharing this convo would be a great way to close out The Vibe for the week! Grab a cup of coffee or a glass of wine, tune in and take advantage of this free therapy session :-). Much Love, TonzaContinue reading “Vibin’ With Psychotherapist Keischa Pruden”
Super Women Don’t Have Time For Mental Illness
One of my all-time favorite movies is Divine Secrets of the Ya-Ya Sisterhood. YA-YA!!! I loved that movie so much that if it weren’t for her father’s strong objection, Gabriella would have been named Sidda Lee. The tight bond that the women maintained despite challenges that tested the bounds of their friendship is one of theContinue reading “Super Women Don’t Have Time For Mental Illness”
How Are You Feeling? Let’s Talk About Mental Health
Several people have suggested that I talk about mental health, so I have decided to do just that. This week each post and Wednesday’s episode of Vibin’ With Tonza (podcast) will be dedicated to mental health awareness! According to the National Institute of Mental Health, nearly 1 in 5 (46.6 million) U.S. adults live withContinue reading “How Are You Feeling? Let’s Talk About Mental Health”
Bad Mom Turned Tiger Mom
Social distancing has led to my 11 year old having more time to game and stream YouTube videos than I would care to admit! Curious about what had her so entranced on YouTube, I decided to join her for one of her binge watching moments. Let me just start by saying, I recognize kids haveContinue reading “Bad Mom Turned Tiger Mom”