Last week I shared the four attachment styles. In that post, I promised to share more about how a person’s attachment style develops. So, here we go. SECURE Secure attachment is the gold standard attachment style. As mentioned last week, a securely attached person can trust and be trusted, love and accept love, and getContinue reading “How Caregivers Impact Attachment Styles”
Author Archives: Tonza D. Ruffin
What Is Your Attachment Style
A person’s specific way of relating to others in relationships. Definition of Attachment Style Before you start reading, if you are a parent, please know this post will make you reflect and possibly travel down a rabbit hole full of guilty feelings. Stop yourself. There are numerous studies out there that focus on an individual’sContinue reading “What Is Your Attachment Style”
Spending Freeze Challenge
I don’t know about you, but I don’t have an unlimited supply of cash. Or, as my grandmother used to say, there are no money trees in my yard. Despite the lack of money trees, I love having financial freedom, which means I must “watch my coins”. I can think of no better way toContinue reading “Spending Freeze Challenge”
Leave The World With Few Regrets
We are all going to die. Sorry to be so blunt. While we all know that human existence is not permanent, the demands of our lives and fear often require us to turn a blind eye to the inevitable truth. Living without intention and turning that blind eye to the reality of our eventual non-existenceContinue reading “Leave The World With Few Regrets”
Watch That MindFu#%er
Someone that intentionally destabilizes, confuses, or manipulates the mind of another person. Definition of Mindfu#%er I hate to admit it, but it gives me great relief to know that I am not the only woman in the world that has experienced being mindfu#%ed. Of course, I do not want other women to experience the mentalContinue reading “Watch That MindFu#%er”
Pinky Cole Put The “Slut” In Vegan
Every time I go to Atlanta, I try to have the Slutty Vegan experience. Unfortunately, the line is always so long that you have to wait hours to get in, which means I am sad to say, I have not had the Slutty Vegan experience yet. But if you know me, you know once IContinue reading “Pinky Cole Put The “Slut” In Vegan”
Summer, Summer, Summer Time
I don’t know about you guys, but I am that mom that is super excited about the last day of school every year! This year marked the end of my youngest daughter’s middle school career. I can’t believe she is headed to high school next year. Isn’t she adorbs? For those of you that don’tContinue reading “Summer, Summer, Summer Time”
Mother Hunger
I am the mother of 3 daughters. I was 19 years old when I had my first daughter, 28 years old when I had my second daughter, and 38 years old when I had my third daughter. To say that my parenting style varied from child to child is an understatement. With my first child,Continue reading “Mother Hunger”
There Is Nothing Wrong With Paying A Woman’s Bills
Yup! I said it! Actually, I didn’t. I was just trying to get your attention! 🙂 I came across a post by Juicy J the other day that said, “There is nothing wrong with paying a woman’s bills; we gotta stop this bullshit.” Before I go further, for those of you trying to figure outContinue reading “There Is Nothing Wrong With Paying A Woman’s Bills”
I Have No More Compassion To Give
The pandemic, George Floyd’s public murder, our country trying to control the reproductive rights of women, constant mass shootings that our legislators are turning a blind eye to, a woman walking into a Chili’s restaurant and murdering another woman, over 20 years of exposure to violence and suffering as a criminal defense attorney. All ofContinue reading “I Have No More Compassion To Give”