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There is power in having open and honest conversations about our individual and collective experiences here on earth. The Vibe blog crosses generational lines to provide valuable information to all women.

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Summer, Summer, Summer Time

I don’t know about you guys, but I am that mom that is super excited about the last day of school every year! This year marked the end of my youngest daughter’s middle school career. I can’t believe she is headed to high school next year. Isn’t she adorbs? ForContinue reading “Summer, Summer, Summer Time”

Tonza with her mother and two of her daughters

Mother Hunger

I am the mother of 3 daughters. I was 19 years old when I had my first daughter, 28 years old when I had my second daughter, and 38 years old when I had my third daughter. To say that my parenting style varied from child to child is anContinue reading “Mother Hunger”

relationships and money

There Is Nothing Wrong With Paying A Woman’s Bills

Yup! I said it! Actually, I didn’t. I was just trying to get your attention! 🙂 I came across a post by Juicy J the other day that said, “There is nothing wrong with paying a woman’s bills; we gotta stop this bullshit.” Before I go further, for those ofContinue reading “There Is Nothing Wrong With Paying A Woman’s Bills”

compassion fatigue

I Have No More Compassion To Give

The pandemic, George Floyd’s public murder, our country trying to control the reproductive rights of women, constant mass shootings that our legislators are turning a blind eye to, a woman walking into a Chili’s restaurant and murdering another woman, over 20 years of exposure to violence and suffering as aContinue reading “I Have No More Compassion To Give”

racism

The Hate Runs Deep

I remember walking away from my family when we visited Emanuel African Methodist Episcopal Church in Charleston, South Carolina. I was so overcome with sorrow as I walked around and thought about the nine people senselessly murdered during their worship service on June 17, 2015. I cried like a babyContinue reading “The Hate Runs Deep”

summer reading

In The Mood For Fiction: 3 Reading Recommendations

One thing that I have learned to embrace about myself; my mood dictates what I enjoy reading. For the past several months, my mood has been about all things fiction. Okay, you got me! I have gotten slightly sidetracked. I started off sharing my mood for fiction so that youContinue reading “In The Mood For Fiction: 3 Reading Recommendations”


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JUST BECAUSE

Genuine human connection, or the lack thereof, led to the creation of my “Just Because” line of products. “Just Because” is about authentically connecting with yourself or others just to let them know you are thinking about them.



MY STORY

I am a woman, single mother, and daughter living in North Carolina. Since 1999 I have dedicated myself to advocating for the voiceless as a criminal defense attorney. In 2016 as a result of a series of unfortunate events I decided to pursue my passion for writing and advocating for women by being transparent about my journey here on this earth.

Growing up, I moved back and forth between New York and North Carolina. Hence, my personality is a little bit city and a little bit country (although I prefer the term southern).

For so many years, I suppressed my dreams and desires. I feared rejection and failure. This fear made me work hard to live the way I thought the world wanted me to live. I excelled academically, I worked hard, I tried to make everyone around me comfortable. Periodically I would rebel against societal standards by acting out. While these acts of rebellion gave me temporary relief from the sense of suffocation I felt, they also gave me a false sense that I was living my life fearlessly. The reality was I was moving further and further away from figuring out who I was and what made me happy. I was being self-destructive.

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