Should We All Be Feminists?

Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie (Chim-muh-MAHN-duh en-GOH-zee ah-DEECH-ee-(ay) The “ay” is soft) is a boss. Several years ago, after hearing her Ted Talk entitled We Should All Be Feminists, I immediately ordered the book and read it at least three times before moving on to my next reading endeavor. We say to girls, ‘You can have ambition,Continue reading “Should We All Be Feminists?”

It Is 2020 and the U.S. is Still Fighting Over the Equal Rights Amendment…

“Equality of rights under the law shall not be denied or abridged by the United States or by any state on account of sex.” -section 1 of the equal rights amendment Since 1972 people have been fighting to validate the Equal Rights Amendment so that it can become law in our country. Unfortunately, it tookContinue reading “It Is 2020 and the U.S. is Still Fighting Over the Equal Rights Amendment…”

WOMAN POWER (Yup, I said it! :-))

I am super excited about the new direction that my life is headed in! WAIT, I feel like I may have told you that already… oh well if I did, my excitement makes me want to tell you again! 🙂 I guess in a sense it has always been heading in this direction, I justContinue reading “WOMAN POWER (Yup, I said it! :-))”

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What The Entire FU*#

I am in the middle of reading Recipe for a Perfect Wife by Karma Brown. Boy, the messaging sent to women via the media and other outlet sources over the years has done a complete 180! I was so fascinated with some of these excerpts that Karma Brown shared in her book that I hadContinue reading “What The Entire FU*#”

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Black Women don’t support one another enough. There, I said it! Often we refer to it as the “Crabs In A Barrel” mindset which essentially means we fear helping another will somehow interfere with our ability to attain greatness. I will be the first to admit in my younger years I hoarded knowledge that wouldContinue reading “CRABS IN A BARREL”


Yesterday, before I took a major leap of faith and released something near and dear to me into the universe, I said a prayer. While I am a pretty transparent person, I rarely share my prayer life with the world. I will not lie, discussing my prayer life openly makes me feel a little hokie!Continue reading “Thankful!”

Take Away Their Power: Shifting Our Focus to Self-Love

I have been a self-proclaimed feminist since my college days. In fact, in undergrad, I majored in Political Science and minored in Women’s Studies with the dream of getting into a Women’s Studies Ph.D. program. My plan was to plant myself on a campus somewhere and spend the rest of my life empowering young women.Continue reading “Take Away Their Power: Shifting Our Focus to Self-Love”

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Cause I’m A Woman

The twenty something Tonza (as she smiles gleefully): The forty something Tonza (as I give myself the side eye): WHY IN THE WORLD WOULD I TAKE ALL OF THAT ON? Anyone remember the saying, “be careful what you wish for”? It seems to be playing like a broken record in my head as I thinkContinue reading “Cause I’m A Woman”

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I am a Feminist (but, I like a man who is chivalrous)

In this quest for equality as women have we led men to believe that we no longer desire a chivalrous man at our side? If so, men please accept my apology for the role that I have played in the confusion.  Sure, I want equal pay and equal access to opportunities. I want to beContinue reading “I am a Feminist (but, I like a man who is chivalrous)”

To Lipstick, or, Not

They are all tucked away in my makeup bag.  I had so much fun with them over the past several months.  In fact, the compliments I received made me more obsessed with finding different shades every time I entered a store.  My bright red lips had become a bold statement about my new found freedom.Continue reading “To Lipstick, or, Not”