Vibin’ With Psychotherapist Keischa Pruden

I had such a great conversation with psychotherapist Keischa Pruden about mental health. I figured sharing this convo would be a great way to close out The Vibe for the week! Grab a cup of coffee or a glass of wine, tune in and take advantage of this free therapy session :-). Much Love, TonzaContinue reading “Vibin’ With Psychotherapist Keischa Pruden”

Social Distancing With an 11-year-old

One of Gabby’s teachers called to check in on us last week! In the midst of our conversation, I had to take a moment to applaud her for having the desire to be in a classroom full of middle schoolers all-day. I mean, for years, I have wondered how teachers are able to keep kidsContinue reading “Social Distancing With an 11-year-old”

Fun Facts From Valencia

I was talking to Ally about our travels and decided to share a few fun facts with you all. For those of you that do not know, Alyssa a.k.a “Ally” is my 20 year-old college junior that I have been exploring Spain with. People often refer to her as my mini me. Ally’s top travelContinue reading “Fun Facts From Valencia”

President of the “Bitter Bitches” Club

I recently learned that I had been bestowed the honor of serving as President of the “Bitter Bitches” Club. Ironically the person that had taken on the responsibility of looking for the perfect candidate never bothered to let me know that I was being considered for such a prestigious position. Therefore it should come asContinue reading “President of the “Bitter Bitches” Club”

Behind the Scenes of My Perfect “Bomb A$%” Life

Happy Holidays! Two days left and we will all be gathering around the tree, drinking hot cocoa in our matching Christmas pajamas, and exchanging gifts as we instruct Alexa to stream holiday music throughout our wonderfully decorated homes. Real talk…The scenario I just described is only a figment of my imagination. At least as itContinue reading “Behind the Scenes of My Perfect “Bomb A$%” Life”

CRABS IN A BARREL

Black Women don’t support one another enough. There, I said it! Often we refer to it as the “Crabs In A Barrel” mindset which essentially means we fear helping another will somehow interfere with our ability to attain greatness. I will be the first to admit in my younger years I hoarded knowledge that wouldContinue reading “CRABS IN A BARREL”

HAPPY THANKSGIVING

This is my second year being away from home on Thanksgiving. Last year we celebrated in Cape May, New Jersey.  This year I decided to roll out with my mom and cousin and head to beautiful Charleston, South Carolina. As a natural wanderer, I  am enjoying this non-traditional way of celebrating the holiday. Since IContinue reading “HAPPY THANKSGIVING”

Hit The Reset Button

Yesterday a lady stopped me in the parking lot to let me know she had read Pieces Of Me. She went on to say that it contained a powerful word and it was going to be helpful to many! My heart just beamed❤️❤️❤️. I was so incredibly thankful that she thought enough of me toContinue reading “Hit The Reset Button”

Silenced: Was I wrong??

We were in Middle School. My friend, well…she hit puberty well before the rest of us girls. As a result, she walked around with a body that the rest of us only dreamed of possessing in the near future. With that body came an air of confidence that suggested that she was somehow superior toContinue reading “Silenced: Was I wrong??”

Tonza D. Ruffin, My Story, Not My Bio

I am a woman, single mother, and daughter living in North Carolina. Since 1999 I have dedicated myself to advocating for the voiceless as a criminal defense attorney. In 2016 as a result of a series of unfortunate events I decided to pursue my passion for writing and advocating for women by being transparent aboutContinue reading “Tonza D. Ruffin, My Story, Not My Bio”