A person’s specific way of relating to others in relationships.Definition of Attachment Style
Before you start reading, if you are a parent, please know this post will make you reflect and possibly travel down a rabbit hole full of guilty feelings. Stop yourself.
There are numerous studies out there that focus on an individual’s attachment style. And, just as you guessed, how a child is reared plays a significant role in their attachment style. But, here is some good news for parents. The buck does not necessarily stop with parents. It seems that other people can significantly impact a person’s attachment style. The great news! Unhealthy attachment styles do not have to be permanent.
Now that I have shared this disclaimer here are the four attachment styles:
This is the gold standard of attachment styles; believe it or not, research has shown that 56% of adults have a secure attachment style.
In a nutshell, a securely attached person can
- trust and be trusted,
- love and accept love, and
- get close to others with relative ease.
Research has shown that 25% of adults are avoidant attachers.
If you are an avoidant attacher, you
- struggle with getting close to others in relationships
- are emotionally unavailable in relationships
- prefer independence
Research has shown that 19% of adults are anxious attachers.
If you are an anxious attacher, you
- tend to be very insecure about your relationships
- tend to always be hungry for validation
Fearful avoidant attachers are also known as disorganized attachers.
If you are a fearful avoidant attacher, you
- desperately crave affection AND want to avoid it at all costs.
- have a strong need to feel loved by others BUT are reluctant to develop a close romantic relationship.
Wondering what attachment style you have? I figured you would be. No worries. Click here to take a short quiz.
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Next week, I will share the parenting styles that lead to each attachment style. Stay tuned!
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4 thoughts on “What Is Your Attachment Style”
I think you’ll agree that people have been known to change from “person’s attachment styles” as they get older or after a good or bad relationship.
Absolutely! I think my romantic relationships have played a major part in my current attachment style.
Hey you…….Good mind set……. I am at PEACE now……
What a wonderful state to be in! Peace.❤️❤️