Vulnerability Has Value: I’m Still A Believer

Tonza Ruffin

Somehow this has turned into TED TALK Tuesday! This was not my intention, but every time I focus on writing for Tuesday’s, I think of a TED TALK that has resonated with me.

Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weakness.

Brene’ brown

If you have read my book Pieces of Me, you know I am extremely transparent about my life journey. My decision to be transparent was twofold:

  • It was a necessary part of my healing process because it forced me to face and question many choices I made in my life
  • I realized there were a lot of women out there that suffer in silence because they fear being judged or misunderstood

Transparency, of course, has made me vulnerable in certain situations. And while I firmly believe there is power in vulnerability, I am still working to balance it in a world that rejects the notion of vulnerability. In my experience, people seem to embrace transparency but shy away from vulnerability. Or, worse, in some instances, people attempt to exploit one’s vulnerability because they cannot appreciate the strength that is required in order to truly be vulnerable.

People who wade into discomfort and vulnerability and tell the truth about their stories are the real badasses.

Brene’ brown

I came across Brene’ Brown’s TED TALK about vulnerability a couple of years ago and was immediately sucked in. I began sharing it with everyone I knew because I thought Brene’ did a masterful job of correlating our life experiences to how we process and deal with vulnerability!

Here is Brene’ Brown’s TED TALK. Let me know what you think.

And remember…Vulnerability does have Value!

Much Love,


Published by Tonza D. Ruffin

Perfectly Imperfect but VERY PROUD WOMAN, MOM, LAWYER, and AUTHOR, but most importantly...LIFE LOVER! I laugh loud, I work hard, I play hard, I am adventurous, I am curious, I am driven, I have moments of deep insecurity, I am loving, I am vulnerable, I am explosive (not one of my finer qualities), I dance around my house alone, I am an awful perfectionist which makes my insecurity worse, I sing out loud in my car without any concern for whose watching, I have trust issues, I do not live through my children, I no longer try to force my children into the mold that I created so that I could feel validated as a mother, I am a risk-taker, I am guarded in my personal life, I am kind, I am grateful. I am so excited about the rest of my life!

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