They are all tucked away in my makeup bag. I had so much fun with them over the past several months. In fact, the compliments I received made me more obsessed with finding different shades every time I entered a store. My bright red lips had become a bold statement about my new found freedom. Donning bold, red lips made me feel free and exciting. So, when he eventually told me he didn’t really care for my bold, red lips I was stunned. According to him, the red was too bold for the hue of my skin. And, he went on to further opine that I would be better served by a softer, more subtle color.
Of course, the Alpha part of my personality made me rebel against the idea of giving up my red lipstick. But, I found myself more and more conscious of crossing paths with him throughout our work day. So, I gathered all of my beautiful shades of red and safely tucked them away in my makeup bag, never to be worn again.
The absence of my “liberation red lips” did not go unnoticed. And, when I reluctantly shared with one of the members of my “big panty crew” that I retired the red lipstick because he didn’t like it, she almost fainted. LOL! Pausing, as she pondered how brash she wanted to be, she finally asked, “why do you care if he likes it? Furthermore, everyone else thinks it looks great on you.” (In case you have missed my previous blogs, my “big panty crew” is not short on opinions). Knowing my girls, I was prepared for a reaction like this so I was comfortable as I responded that his thoughts on my appearance matter. Certainly, I wasn’t pondering major reconstructive surgery in order to please him but I certainly did not believe my decision to retire the red lips meant, once again, my feminist card should be snatched.
There should be limits to what you are, and are not, willing to do for the significant person in your life. But there is nothing wrong with making “small” changes to please your partner. Apparently he agrees. When I asked him to shorten his beard, without hesitation it was done.
What do you think readers? Where do you draw the line? Should my feminist card be snatched? Have you made any small changes to please your significant other?