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Summer, Summer, Summer Time

I don’t know about you guys, but I am that mom that is super excited about the last day of school every year! This year marked the end of my youngest daughter’s middle school career. I can’t believe she is headed to high school next year. Isn’t she adorbs? For those of you that don’tContinue reading “Summer, Summer, Summer Time”

Tonza with her mother and two of her daughters

Mother Hunger

I am the mother of 3 daughters. I was 19 years old when I had my first daughter, 28 years old when I had my second daughter, and 38 years old when I had my third daughter. To say that my parenting style varied from child to child is an understatement. With my first child,Continue reading “Mother Hunger”

relationships and money

There Is Nothing Wrong With Paying A Woman’s Bills

Yup! I said it! Actually, I didn’t. I was just trying to get your attention! 🙂 I came across a post by Juicy J the other day that said, “There is nothing wrong with paying a woman’s bills; we gotta stop this bullshit.” Before I go further, for those of you trying to figure outContinue reading “There Is Nothing Wrong With Paying A Woman’s Bills”

compassion fatigue

I Have No More Compassion To Give

The pandemic, George Floyd’s public murder, our country trying to control the reproductive rights of women, constant mass shootings that our legislators are turning a blind eye to, a woman walking into a Chili’s restaurant and murdering another woman, over 20 years of exposure to violence and suffering as a criminal defense attorney. All ofContinue reading “I Have No More Compassion To Give”

racism

The Hate Runs Deep

I remember walking away from my family when we visited Emanuel African Methodist Episcopal Church in Charleston, South Carolina. I was so overcome with sorrow as I walked around and thought about the nine people senselessly murdered during their worship service on June 17, 2015. I cried like a baby as I tried to makeContinue reading “The Hate Runs Deep”

summer reading

In The Mood For Fiction: 3 Reading Recommendations

One thing that I have learned to embrace about myself; my mood dictates what I enjoy reading. For the past several months, my mood has been about all things fiction. Okay, you got me! I have gotten slightly sidetracked. I started off sharing my mood for fiction so that you would not ask me howContinue reading “In The Mood For Fiction: 3 Reading Recommendations”

iv hydration therapy

IV Hydration: I Did It!

My digestive system is a “hot mess”. In addition to seeking medical care, I am making some dietary changes with the hopes of helping my body to heal. My biggest battle has been with my daily dark roast caffeinated cups of coffee. I am that two coffee maker owner kind of girl. The girl whoseContinue reading “IV Hydration: I Did It!”

Fawn Weaver

Fawn Weaver Says Do It With Excellence Or Don’t Do It At All

As the fog lifted and I slowly realized that I had been living under a rock for several months, I decided to return to one of my favorite pastimes, podcasts. Trying to expand my horizons, I searched for and included some new podcasts in my library. While some of the topics were intriguing, I foundContinue reading “Fawn Weaver Says Do It With Excellence Or Don’t Do It At All”

reading blog posts

PSSST…Did You Miss These Great Reads?

Hi! Here are two quick reads that I thought you would enjoy. Be sure to take the personality profile quiz so that you can tell me what your tendency is! 🙂 HOW DO YOU RESPOND TO EXPECTATIONS? “THE FOUR TENDENCIES” PERSONALITY PROFILE Sometimes I spend a lot of time in my car. When I amContinue reading “PSSST…Did You Miss These Great Reads?”

Thank You

Thank You

I am so incredibly grateful for you all! You have continued to support me as I strive to build a business that I am passionate about and very much committed to. Despite passion and commitment, organic growth takes time. And sometimes, we creatives get discouraged because we are human, after all. Another creative recently askedContinue reading “Thank You”

Hubert Davis UNC Coach

I Am Very Proud That My Wife Is White: Says Black Man Hubert Davis

So my daughter’s college, UNC-Chapel Hill, made history this month. Long-time head basketball coach Roy Williams retired, and Hubert Davis was selected as the University’s new head coach. This decision was historic because Hubert Davis is the 1st African-American head basketball coach in UNC’s 232-year history. It took a university that heavily recruits African-American youngContinue reading “I Am Very Proud That My Wife Is White: Says Black Man Hubert Davis”

Tonza Ruffin

Aging Gracefully: An Inside Out Job

This is for all of the women out there like me trying to figure out how to take care of themselves so that they can accomplish all of the things on their life to-do list. I don’t know about you, but now that I am comfortable in my skin, I need it to last soContinue reading “Aging Gracefully: An Inside Out Job”

Alicia Garza

Speak Clearly: Alicia Garza Has Definitely Mastered The Art

When I am in my car and not turning up on Megan Thee Stallion or getting centered with Willow and Jahnavi, I am usually tuned into a podcast. This week I took in a few really good podcast episodes. The Skimm’d from the Couch episode with Alicia Garza was by far my favorite. In myContinue reading “Speak Clearly: Alicia Garza Has Definitely Mastered The Art”

wellness center

Protect Your Energy, Literally

One of the many phrases we often hear these days is “protect your energy”. Seeing that as some great advice, I decided to visit an energy healer and literally protect my energy. I was driving through the town of Hillsborough when I came across the Cedar Walk Wellness Center. It caught my eye because I thoughtContinue reading “Protect Your Energy, Literally”

book by Tonza Ruffin

Dear Black Man, I See You

Today I am continuing my quest to put positive energy and love out in the universe! One of my cousins who has been married for over 20 years told me about how her husband has never said one word in all of the years they have been together about… (I respect that the details areContinue reading “Dear Black Man, I See You”

peace and harmony

Welcome Harmonious Conditions

It’s the weekend! What a great time to begin the practice of seeking harmony in your life. I found this wonderful affirmation when I read The Secret that I want to share with you all. I wrote it on the front of my manifestation envelope and have started reading it when I wake up andContinue reading “Welcome Harmonious Conditions”

Ava Duvernay

Ava DuVernay’s Rules For Success

I have been pouring into myself over the past couple of weeks and trying to consume anything and everything that is in alignment with what feels right to me. In short, I am seeking to be more true to who I am. While I was curled up in my bed on Sunday, I was clickingContinue reading “Ava DuVernay’s Rules For Success”

self-love

I’m Feeling Myself: Is That A Bad Thing?

I was chatting with a friend the other day, and she shared an experience with me that I just have not been able to get out of my head. She was at work when a co-worker told her that she looked really nice. In response to what she perceived to be a compliment, my friendContinue reading “I’m Feeling Myself: Is That A Bad Thing?”

reading list

Read Baby Read: My Reading List Is Almost Complete

I am ALL IN! Gretchen Rubin has inspired me to create a 21 in 2021 reading list. I have so many books I want to read, but I know there are many great books out there I know nothing of. I need your help with completing my list. As you can see from the 14Continue reading “Read Baby Read: My Reading List Is Almost Complete”

Who Is Big Sean

Who in the World is Big Sean

The other day I told you I watched Jay Shetty’s Big Sean interview and how it impacted me. Some of you in my age group were wondering who in the world Big Sean is. Having young children helps me stay up on who’s who in the “rap game” :-). Here are 3 of Big Sean’s music videos.Continue reading “Who in the World is Big Sean”

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