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Your Heart Wants You To Floss And Brush

If fresh breath is not enough incentive for you to want to brush and floss, I am here to offer another incentive. Studies have shown that people with gum disease have two to three times the risk of having a heart attack, stroke, or other serious heart issues. This has led scientists to conclude thatContinue reading “Your Heart Wants You To Floss And Brush”

Darrell Alston

From Prison To Luxury Brand CEO

I oftentimes find inspiration where I least expect it. Tonza Lately, I have been uninspired. As a creative with career and mommy duties, it is easy to fall into this rut. Sometimes instead of pushing through, I decide to pause and tune in to the world around me. I was in my car for aContinue reading “From Prison To Luxury Brand CEO”

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How Caregivers Impact Attachment Styles

Last week I shared the four attachment styles. In that post, I promised to share more about how a person’s attachment style develops. So, here we go. SECURE Secure attachment is the gold standard attachment style. As mentioned last week, a securely attached person can trust and be trusted, love and accept love, and getContinue reading “How Caregivers Impact Attachment Styles”

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What Is Your Attachment Style

A person’s specific way of relating to others in relationships. Definition of Attachment Style Before you start reading, if you are a parent, please know this post will make you reflect and possibly travel down a rabbit hole full of guilty feelings. Stop yourself. There are numerous studies out there that focus on an individual’sContinue reading “What Is Your Attachment Style”

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Spending Freeze Challenge

I don’t know about you, but I don’t have an unlimited supply of cash. Or, as my grandmother used to say, there are no money trees in my yard. Despite the lack of money trees, I love having financial freedom, which means I must “watch my coins”. I can think of no better way toContinue reading “Spending Freeze Challenge”

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Leave The World With Few Regrets

We are all going to die. Sorry to be so blunt. While we all know that human existence is not permanent, the demands of our lives and fear often require us to turn a blind eye to the inevitable truth. Living without intention and turning that blind eye to the reality of our eventual non-existenceContinue reading “Leave The World With Few Regrets”

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Watch That MindFu#%er

Someone that intentionally destabilizes, confuses, or manipulates the mind of another person. Definition of Mindfu#%er I hate to admit it, but it gives me great relief to know that I am not the only woman in the world that has experienced being mindfu#%ed. Of course, I do not want other women to experience the mentalContinue reading “Watch That MindFu#%er”

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Pinky Cole Put The “Slut” In Vegan

Every time I go to Atlanta, I try to have the Slutty Vegan experience. Unfortunately, the line is always so long that you have to wait hours to get in, which means I am sad to say, I have not had the Slutty Vegan experience yet. But if you know me, you know once IContinue reading “Pinky Cole Put The “Slut” In Vegan”

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Summer, Summer, Summer Time

I don’t know about you guys, but I am that mom that is super excited about the last day of school every year! This year marked the end of my youngest daughter’s middle school career. I can’t believe she is headed to high school next year. Isn’t she adorbs? For those of you that don’tContinue reading “Summer, Summer, Summer Time”

Tonza with her mother and two of her daughters

Mother Hunger

I am the mother of 3 daughters. I was 19 years old when I had my first daughter, 28 years old when I had my second daughter, and 38 years old when I had my third daughter. To say that my parenting style varied from child to child is an understatement. With my first child,Continue reading “Mother Hunger”

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There Is Nothing Wrong With Paying A Woman’s Bills

Yup! I said it! Actually, I didn’t. I was just trying to get your attention! 🙂 I came across a post by Juicy J the other day that said, “There is nothing wrong with paying a woman’s bills; we gotta stop this bullshit.” Before I go further, for those of you trying to figure outContinue reading “There Is Nothing Wrong With Paying A Woman’s Bills”

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I Have No More Compassion To Give

The pandemic, George Floyd’s public murder, our country trying to control the reproductive rights of women, constant mass shootings that our legislators are turning a blind eye to, a woman walking into a Chili’s restaurant and murdering another woman, over 20 years of exposure to violence and suffering as a criminal defense attorney. All ofContinue reading “I Have No More Compassion To Give”

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The Hate Runs Deep

I remember walking away from my family when we visited Emanuel African Methodist Episcopal Church in Charleston, South Carolina. I was so overcome with sorrow as I walked around and thought about the nine people senselessly murdered during their worship service on June 17, 2015. I cried like a baby as I tried to makeContinue reading “The Hate Runs Deep”

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In The Mood For Fiction: 3 Reading Recommendations

One thing that I have learned to embrace about myself; my mood dictates what I enjoy reading. For the past several months, my mood has been about all things fiction. Okay, you got me! I have gotten slightly sidetracked. I started off sharing my mood for fiction so that you would not ask me howContinue reading “In The Mood For Fiction: 3 Reading Recommendations”

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IV Hydration: I Did It!

My digestive system is a “hot mess”. In addition to seeking medical care, I am making some dietary changes with the hopes of helping my body to heal. My biggest battle has been with my daily dark roast caffeinated cups of coffee. I am that two coffee maker owner kind of girl. The girl whoseContinue reading “IV Hydration: I Did It!”

Fawn Weaver

Fawn Weaver Says Do It With Excellence Or Don’t Do It At All

As the fog lifted and I slowly realized that I had been living under a rock for several months, I decided to return to one of my favorite pastimes, podcasts. Trying to expand my horizons, I searched for and included some new podcasts in my library. While some of the topics were intriguing, I foundContinue reading “Fawn Weaver Says Do It With Excellence Or Don’t Do It At All”

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PSSST…Did You Miss These Great Reads?

Hi! Here are two quick reads that I thought you would enjoy. Be sure to take the personality profile quiz so that you can tell me what your tendency is! 🙂 HOW DO YOU RESPOND TO EXPECTATIONS? “THE FOUR TENDENCIES” PERSONALITY PROFILE Sometimes I spend a lot of time in my car. When I amContinue reading “PSSST…Did You Miss These Great Reads?”

Thank You

Thank You

I am so incredibly grateful for you all! You have continued to support me as I strive to build a business that I am passionate about and very much committed to. Despite passion and commitment, organic growth takes time. And sometimes, we creatives get discouraged because we are human, after all. Another creative recently askedContinue reading “Thank You”

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I Am Very Proud That My Wife Is White: Says Black Man Hubert Davis

So my daughter’s college, UNC-Chapel Hill, made history this month. Long-time head basketball coach Roy Williams retired, and Hubert Davis was selected as the University’s new head coach. This decision was historic because Hubert Davis is the 1st African-American head basketball coach in UNC’s 232-year history. It took a university that heavily recruits African-American youngContinue reading “I Am Very Proud That My Wife Is White: Says Black Man Hubert Davis”

Tonza Ruffin

Aging Gracefully: An Inside Out Job

This is for all of the women out there like me trying to figure out how to take care of themselves so that they can accomplish all of the things on their life to-do list. I don’t know about you, but now that I am comfortable in my skin, I need it to last soContinue reading “Aging Gracefully: An Inside Out Job”

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