I’m Feeling Myself: Is That A Bad Thing?

I was chatting with a friend the other day, and she shared an experience with me that I just have not been able to get out of my head. She was at work when a co-worker told her that she looked really nice. In response to what she perceived to be a compliment, my friendContinue reading “I’m Feeling Myself: Is That A Bad Thing?”

“Bad Bitches” Have Bad Days

“Bad Bitches Have Bad Days” is the phrase that came into my head when I initially began thinking about this post. In my mind, there needed to be a conversation about allowing women to “just be” without judgment. And, I still believe that is a conversation we should have. Just not today. Today I wantContinue reading ““Bad Bitches” Have Bad Days”

Mindset Shift: 4 Things That Will Lead to One’s Peace and Happiness In Life

2020 has been life-altering for many, me included! Initially, I was completely blindsided by the seriousness of COVID-19. In fact, I was traveling home from Spain with my middle daughter when COVID-19 became very real to me. I remember making my way through NY customs, feeling a little panicked as I looked around and sawContinue reading “Mindset Shift: 4 Things That Will Lead to One’s Peace and Happiness In Life”

What Tonza Wants: Over 40 and Dating (5 Traits of an Ideal Mate for Me)

I recently read an interesting article about what men in my age group are attracted to. I thought this article did a wonderful job of providing some insight into the mind of a mature man seeking companionship. It also led to some introspection on my part…What do I want? After careful consideration, while blasting EllaContinue reading “What Tonza Wants: Over 40 and Dating (5 Traits of an Ideal Mate for Me)”

Women/Young Ladies that Inspire Me

Hi everyone!! I really have missed blogging over the past couple of weeks.  Court demands, and, other projects have been consuming so much of  my time. Anyway, I have decided to dedicate my next couple of blog posts to sharing more information about me, Tonza D. Ruffin :-). To kick this project off, here are threeContinue reading “Women/Young Ladies that Inspire Me”

No Hoping Allowed

My friends are the dating gurus, or at least they think they are. More importantly, they think I am absolutely clueless when it comes to dating. I will admit I am partially to blame. Sometimes I enjoy playing “clueless” with folks. It makes them relax, and the expressions on people’s faces when I go into “clueless” mode are priceless.Continue reading “No Hoping Allowed”