Living, Not Existing
Hi guys! Ally and I are really enjoying our adventures in Spain! Tomorrow we are hopping on the train and headed to the city of Valencia for a couple of days to hang out with our family. But, before we leave Barcelona, I wanted to share some of the highlights from our stay here. WhenContinue reading “Mommy Daughter Travel Adventures in Barcelona, Spain”
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There was a time where I could party all night, work a full 8 hour shift, and still be running around like the energizer bunny. That time has passed! 🙂 Wednesday, after I asked myself what in the world possessed me to think it was a good idea to commit to going to an eventContinue reading “About Last Night!”
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Hi everyone! It has been such a busy time for me. I am really excited about everything going on in my life right now. Today I want to share two exciting things with you. FIRST THING: I have launched a podcast! Vibin’ With Tonza is a podcast about LIFE, LOVE & EMPOWERMENT! I am greatlyContinue reading “IT HAS BEEN A MINUTE! I MISSED YOU GUYS!”
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You have to remember who you are, what you want and what you deserve. Sometimes what we want isn’t what God wants for us. Walking away from it may be hard, it may even hurt, but you have to remember staying and settling for something is not the same as being blessed with something. HowContinue reading “A Love Letter to Myself”
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As I sat there watching Queen and Slim my mind wandered back… It was a beautiful summer day and we didn’t have a care in the world. Two professional black people taking a break from the grind of litigation. We found ourselves at Lowe’s in Morehead City plant shopping. Satisfied with our selection, we checkedContinue reading “QUEEN AND SUMMEY”
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In a lot of cases men wouldn’t ever get married if we could get away with it. If a woman would allow that. We’d keep it simple, and you’d be a companion vs a wife. Or, someone we occasionally spent time with.
Apparently, I did not get the 2019 single woman’s memo, the “F” word is never to be raised, or discussed until you have been dating/seeing someone for a solid 6 months, year, 2 years…maybe NEVER. Up until his visceral rejection of my revelation, I thought we were kind of feeling each other despite the fact that weContinue reading “The “F” Word: The Woes of Being Over 40 and Dating”
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If someone asked me to describe myself in 3 words or less, I would say “submissive boss chick”. I know, I know…a bit of an oxymoron, huh? But wait, let me explain before you start judging and trying to snatch my superwoman cape. I am willing to bet there are other women out there that canContinue reading “Submissive Boss Chick”
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I recently read an interesting article about what men in my age group are attracted to. I thought this article did a wonderful job of providing some insight into the mind of a mature man seeking companionship. It also led to some introspection on my part…What do I want? After careful consideration, while blasting EllaContinue reading “What Tonza Wants: Over 40 and Dating (5 Traits of an Ideal Mate for Me)”
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I know I am stereotyping when I say this, but I believe most women are nurturers. As such, we believe that we are powerful enough to overcome anything with a healthy dose of love and understanding. Oftentimes it is that belief that leads to us staying in a relationship well past its date of expiration. The problemContinue reading “Full Circle Part 1: If It Don’t Fit Don’t Force It”
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