5 THINGS Moms Should Teach Their Daughters

When I entered the motherhood circle at the young age of 19, I got a lot of advice about how to take care of my daughter’s physical needs. Breastfeeding, cloth diapers, nap time, burping, cereal in bottles, etc. Wherever I turned, there seemed to be an abundance of women ready, willing, and able to teachContinue reading “5 THINGS Moms Should Teach Their Daughters”

Advice to Our Moms: 10 Things We Need You To Know

My co-contributor, Courtney Muhammad, and I decided to be creative this year for Mother’s Day. Tight budgets always make our creative juices really flow. LOL! We figured since our moms always have so much advice for us, we would return the favor. So, with the help of our siblings and my dad, who decided toContinue reading “Advice to Our Moms: 10 Things We Need You To Know”

The “ATL”

In 1999 when I packed my bags (actually now that I think of it I really did not do much packing. My family was so mad when they came to move me because they kept telling me to have my ish together.) and said goodbye to Atlanta I did not experience an overwhelming sense ofContinue reading “The “ATL””

Behind the Scenes of My Perfect “Bomb A$%” Life

Happy Holidays! Two days left and we will all be gathering around the tree, drinking hot cocoa in our matching Christmas pajamas, and exchanging gifts as we instruct Alexa to stream holiday music throughout our wonderfully decorated homes. Real talk…The scenario I just described is only a figment of my imagination. At least as itContinue reading “Behind the Scenes of My Perfect “Bomb A$%” Life”

Thanksgiving in Charleston, SC: Tonza’s Travel Adventures

As we walked through the historic district in Charleston, South Carolina, admiring the beautiful homes, I could just imagine myself sitting on the front porch, sipping a mint julep. Spending Thanksgiving with the “Original Divas” was a blast. If you enjoy food, history, and beautiful homes, you need to add Charleston, South Carolina, to yourContinue reading “Thanksgiving in Charleston, SC: Tonza’s Travel Adventures”

Thanksgiving in Cape May, NJ: Tonza’s Travel Adventures

I was hoping to convince my family to return to New York for another fun-filled vacation, so when my mother suggested we spend Thanksgiving in Cape May, New Jersey, I was less than thrilled. It had been years since I traveled to Cape May and, there was nothing in my memory bank that made meContinue reading “Thanksgiving in Cape May, NJ: Tonza’s Travel Adventures”

Tonza D. Ruffin, My Story, Not My Bio

I am a woman, single mother, and daughter living in North Carolina. Since 1999 I have dedicated myself to advocating for the voiceless as a criminal defense attorney. In 2016 as a result of a series of unfortunate events I decided to pursue my passion for writing and advocating for women by being transparent aboutContinue reading “Tonza D. Ruffin, My Story, Not My Bio”

My Families “Bucket List”

As I shared in “The Big Panty Crew” Bucket List, I love to read people’s bucket list. Since I decided to share my friend’s bucket list, I definitely wanted to share my families. So, here we go: My mother’s bucket list: Own a small condo in NYC a moving company to help me move some thingsContinue reading “My Families “Bucket List””

Why We Settle

I am at the halfway point of being eligible to file for my divorce.  In North Carolina, one must be separated for one year before seeking a divorce. During the first few months of my separation, I was determined to focus solely on myself and my children and deal with all the pain and disappointmentContinue reading “Why We Settle”

For Your Consideration

I have been receiving a lot of feedback from individuals that have read my blog posts.  As a writer, it is always exciting when you get feedback because you know that your material is being read. Of course, as humans, we all share different beliefs, values, and standards. So, just like anything else, there areContinue reading “For Your Consideration”