Dear Black Man, I See You


Of course I included a few blank pages at the end for you to express, in your own words, how you see the man in your life!


Everywhere we turn, we can find a wealth of information being shared about the types of men we should stay away from. We often forget to acknowledge all of the Black Men that “show up” for us.

I saw so many men in my family do just that, “show up” for the women they love; Taking care of them through sickness, providing for them, accepting them, supporting them, loving them.

I know that I am not the only woman who has had the privilege of being exposed to Black Men that “show up”.

This book is a simple acknowledgment that they exist, are appreciated, and are seen.

Author: Tonza D. Ruffin

Perfectly Imperfect but VERY PROUD WOMAN, MOM, LAWYER, and AUTHOR, but most importantly...LIFE LOVER! I laugh loud, I work hard, I play hard, I am adventurous, I am curious, I am driven, I have moments of deep insecurity, I am loving, I am vulnerable, I am explosive (not one of my finer qualities), I dance around my house alone, I am an awful perfectionist which makes my insecurity worse, I sing out loud in my car without any concern for whose watching, I have trust issues, I do not live through my children, I no longer try to force my children into the mold that I created so that I could feel validated as a mother, I am a risk-taker, I am guarded in my personal life, I am kind, I am grateful. I am so excited about the rest of my life!

2 thoughts

  1. I am a witness to the love that Mr. Epps had for his wife. They were a dynamic couple and loved each other so much! He actually said the prayer at my wedding reception. How sweet! I have been married for almost 26 years and just pray for many more years to come with my love. Rest in heaven Mr. and Mrs. Epps! They set a true example of how love is suppose to be.

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