My Journey Along the Way

As promised, here are three things about me that many of you never knew:

1. I wanted to be a Women’s Studies professor. Years ago, when I had only 1 daughter, I thought my life was heading in a different direction. I envisioned a life where we lived in a quiet college/university community, and, I was  a Women’s Studies Professor. I thought this would be the ideal life for us, because, we would reap the benefits of the social and cultural environment seen in many college town’s.
So, I applied to a Women’s Studies PhD program in Worcester, Massachusetts, was rejected, and ended up in law school at Georgia State University College of Law. Today, I am a practicing attorney in rural, North Carolina.

My Law School Graduation Photo

2. I attended an all girls Catholic School in the Bronx for most of my high school years. After being accepted into the Academy of Mt. St. Ursula, I returned to New York and attended school there from 9th grade, until the end of my 11th grade year.

mt. st. ursula
Academy of Mt. St. Ursula

3. I attended four colleges/universities before ultimately receiving my undergraduate degree. The only college I applied to for undergrad was Hampton University. Fortunately, I was accepted. Although I was able to attend for one year, the financial strain that an education at this HBCU was placing on my mother caused me to accept a full scholarship from the University of Maryland Eastern Shore. When I became a mother, I relocated to Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, was accepted at Temple University and continued my studies until I moved back to New York, and then, ultimately returned to North Carolina. Back in North Carolina, I attended East Carolina University and received a Bachelor of Arts degree in Political Science, with a minor in Women’s Studies.


Today I look back at all of the twists and turns that my life took. I wonder, quite naturally, what my life would have been like if I had followed a less windy path to success. I have some ideas, but, of course, I’m not sure. What I am sure about, is that, in this present moment, I am exactly where I am supposed to be.

Much love,


Published by Tonza D. Ruffin

Perfectly Imperfect but VERY PROUD WOMAN, MOM, LAWYER, and AUTHOR, but most importantly...LIFE LOVER! I laugh loud, I work hard, I play hard, I am adventurous, I am curious, I am driven, I have moments of deep insecurity, I am loving, I am vulnerable, I am explosive (not one of my finer qualities), I dance around my house alone, I am an awful perfectionist which makes my insecurity worse, I sing out loud in my car without any concern for whose watching, I have trust issues, I do not live through my children, I no longer try to force my children into the mold that I created so that I could feel validated as a mother, I am a risk-taker, I am guarded in my personal life, I am kind, I am grateful. I am so excited about the rest of my life!

14 thoughts on “My Journey Along the Way

  1. Thank you once again for allowing us to peek through the window of your life. Your twist and turns made you into the strong woman that you are today. It is the twisting of a vine that gives it the extra strength it needs to go higher!

  2. I’ve always thought you were a very strong women. But then again look who your roll model was. Your Mom is certainly a wonderful roll model. But, I’m the other hand, let’s give credit where credit is due, you chose, despite one issue or another, to stay focused on what you needed to do for yourself as well as your children. I’m certainly very proud of you.

  3. Wow! Life has a way of changing the “straight” path to one of many bumps and curves. Dedication, faith, confidence and prayer will ultimately get you to your goal. Congrats on your achievements. You are AWESOME and AMAZING!

  4. Hey…. It all makes sense that GOD wanted you to follow the path you did, to achieve the things YOU accomplished, so others can see that if there is a WILL, GOD can provide a WAY thru HARD WORK. Only one thing…… When did they change the “Crazy Asylum’s” name to your High School’s name in the Bronx? Signed a Mount St. Michael’s Academy Alum……:)

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