Meghan Markle Hit the Jackpot

Just like every other woman on the planet, I was tuned in for the royal wedding. Most women (and maybe even some men) love a storybook romance. Mesmerized by the beauty and splendor of the union between this beautiful couple, many of us focused in on every expression shared between them, trying to confirm that true love was present. They did not disappoint, gazing into one another’s eyes as the world looked on.

Leading up to the royal wedding I heard many comment about how lucky Meghan Markle was. Despite her own personal success, it seemed she had hit the jackpot by marrying into this wealthy, privileged family. The jackpot for many meant Meghan Markle was about to be immersed into a world that included access to “things” and experiences that most could never dream of having. The fact that she had come from humble beginnings, and, according to societal standards, was not the type of woman that one would expect Prince Harry to wed, took the romance to another level because, quite frankly, it gave many women hope that they too may one day meet their “Prince Charming” without being limited by race or class.


Of course I could whole-heartedly appreciate the opportunities that awaited Meghan Markle as she transitioned into being the Duchess of Sussex. But, as a professional woman, concerned with leaving my own footprint, I thought about all that this seemingly independent woman would have to give up in the name of love (I mean who doesn’t want to take a selfie every now and then!) 🙂

The more I watched them interact with one another, I realized that she easily walked away from everything, and happily assumed her role as Prince Harry’s wife, because she had hit the ultimate jackpot, the “emotional jackpot”. Despite his wealth, Prince Harry was compassionate, conscious, and kind. And, he seemed completely enamored with his beautiful wife.

As I watched the couples BBC interview I applauded this sister. Unlike many others who assume hitting the jackpot is about wealth, status, and privilege, she was centered enough to know that the only jackpot that mattered when it came to the heart was the “emotional jackpot”. So, instead of being caught up with the fact that she was, quite possibly, going on a date with a Prince, her primary concern was, “is he nice”.


As women, we are so fortunate for all of the advances that we have made. Female empowerment and gender equality, as it relates to relationships, is no longer  about proving to the world that I don’t need a man.  It means I, as a woman, do not have to be limited to men that can ensure my financial stability. Empowered, I can enter into a union as a team, with the common goal of stability. I have been empowered so that I can enter a union that is centered around mutual respect. I have been empowered so that I can choose compassion, integrity, and intelligence over security. And, most importantly, I have been empowered so that I too can ask the simple, but most important question,  “is he nice”?

Much love,


P.S. Men, you have been empowered too! You can shift your focus from taking care of us, to, loving us! Embrace your inner Prince 🙂

Published by Tonza D. Ruffin

Perfectly Imperfect but VERY PROUD WOMAN, MOM, LAWYER, and AUTHOR, but most importantly...LIFE LOVER! I laugh loud, I work hard, I play hard, I am adventurous, I am curious, I am driven, I have moments of deep insecurity, I am loving, I am vulnerable, I am explosive (not one of my finer qualities), I dance around my house alone, I am an awful perfectionist which makes my insecurity worse, I sing out loud in my car without any concern for whose watching, I have trust issues, I do not live through my children, I no longer try to force my children into the mold that I created so that I could feel validated as a mother, I am a risk-taker, I am guarded in my personal life, I am kind, I am grateful. I am so excited about the rest of my life!

13 thoughts on “Meghan Markle Hit the Jackpot

  1. Yesssss!!! Oh to not have to even think about whether someone can, not necessarily take care of me (I do a pretty good job of that myself), but can he carry his own weight? I too want to be able to just focus on compatibility…that “is he nice” factor. These days though, there are so many other things to consider because so many times people put on masks that we can’t see beyond until it’s too late. But who has time for masks or games? None of us! I’m happy for the new Duchess & that she hit that “jackpot.” There is hope for us all😊

  2. You hit the nail on the head. Emotional Jackpot, in my opinion is what it’s all about. As long as you have that, then everything else will follow suit. Worded well, as usual.

  3. I watched the wedding too. It was magnificent! Yeah, she married “well” but so did he.
    Very nice article!

  4. I agree that she has met a man who seemingly will love her and cherish her like, well say, a ‘princess’. It’s clear from watching the wedding she has a partner who will love her no matter what. I believe it does help greatly though that he comes from old money and royalty. She has put herself on an amazing pedestal by marrying Harry, and while I don’t think his status made her choose him as a husband, I do think it added an extra notch of certainty.

  5. Good day…… I am not enamored with big fancy weddings…. It’s only for show….. Marriage is a job that requires constant work and compromise…… With that said, your article is well written as always….. Signed: a King with a different kind of privilege……

  6. I love all your blogs. When I saw this title I got a little nervous. When I read about the “Emotional Jackpot” I exhaled, slid down in my chair and smiled. I have been with the same Man for 25 years. We have been through many ups and downs. I have to say that if there was anyone in this world that I would be on this roller coaster called life, he is the one. Even as a young girl I never measured a man by money. I have always been able to see good in all bad situation and I think this is what helped me gain the emotional support I have always needed. I agree that I can do well financially on my own but being in a relationship that supports me emotionally (with all my baggage) is worth more to than Gold!

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