I was chatting with a friend recently and this scenario came up. Because it provoked some thought and self-reflection for me I wanted to bring the scenario to you. So, here you go.
You walk into an event with your man who happens to be blessed with “chick magnet” genes. Translation… your man is “FINE”! Having lived with this blessing all of his life has given him a certain level of confidence that means not only is he “fine”, but, he possesses that extra “swag” that causes the entire focus of the room to shift to him. Or, at least, all of the female focus… The women present with their men are trying to be subtle about the fact that they can’t stop looking at your man. The women present with their girlfriends are not holding back. They think your man is “fine” and they want him to know they think so.
As a woman you can appreciate their admiration. Hell, you get to look at him on a regular basis. So, the fact that all eyes are on him doesn’t bother you at all. And then the focus shifts. To you.
Now, you are no “toad”. You turn a few heads yourself. But, all of a sudden, the single women in the room shift from openly admiring your man to analyzing you, and wondering, “what in the hell does she have that I don’t have”. And, all you can think is, “this is going to be a long night.”
Of course, on a basic level, the strength of the relationship dictates the outcome of a night like this. But, I am curious readers, do you believe that;
- It is the man’s responsibility to make his woman feel secure in this environment?
- What are some of the things that you think the man could do?
- It is a sign of insecurity on the woman’s part if the “what does she have” analysis makes her uncomfortable.
- What should she do to deal with her discomfort?
Let me know what you think by commenting in the comments section!