PSSST…Did You Miss These Great Reads?

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Hi! Here are two quick reads that I thought you would enjoy. Be sure to take the personality profile quiz so that you can tell me what your tendency is! 🙂

what's your tendency


Sometimes I spend a lot of time in my car. When I am not putting on a concert from my seat, I am tuned in to my favorite podcasts. Jay Shetty’s On Purpose, by far, is my favorite. Last week I tuned in to hear his conversation with Gretchen Rubin about her book “The Four Tendencies”. I became intrigued with Gretchen Rubin years ago when I read her book The Happiness Project. Looking back, I now realize that it was around the time that I was beginning to do some soul searching about life fulfillment.

“The Four Tendencies” is a personality profile created by Gretchen Rubin to explain how a person responds to expectations. According to Gretchen, people face two kinds of expectations:

Did I grab your attention? Good! 🙂 Click here to keep reading and take the quiz.

negativity bias


How many times have you accused someone of being so negative? Or has anyone ever called you a “negative Nancy”? It seems that human nature causes us to focus on the negative more than the positive. According to a whole lot of research out there, these negative tendencies occur because our brain is wired to scan for threats. Did you know that? I did not! This phenomenon is known as negativity bias.

Want to know more about negativity bias? Click here to keep reading.

Hope you enjoy!

Much Love,


books by Tonza Ruffin

Published by Tonza D. Ruffin

Perfectly Imperfect but VERY PROUD WOMAN, MOM, LAWYER, and AUTHOR, but most importantly...LIFE LOVER! I laugh loud, I work hard, I play hard, I am adventurous, I am curious, I am driven, I have moments of deep insecurity, I am loving, I am vulnerable, I am explosive (not one of my finer qualities), I dance around my house alone, I am an awful perfectionist which makes my insecurity worse, I sing out loud in my car without any concern for whose watching, I have trust issues, I do not live through my children, I no longer try to force my children into the mold that I created so that I could feel validated as a mother, I am a risk-taker, I am guarded in my personal life, I am kind, I am grateful. I am so excited about the rest of my life!

5 thoughts on “PSSST…Did You Miss These Great Reads?

  1. Tonza, it does not surprise me that I am an OBLIGER. However, I an now at a point in my life where I feel I have owned the right to focus more on meeting my personal needs and desires.

    1. Of course I am a OBLIGER! I have made New Years Resolutions “not to be a people pleaser!”. ☺️

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