Are You An Imposter?: Let’s Talk About Imposter Syndrome.

I always thought I was a perfectionist, but now I wonder. It is funny how one conversation can change the trajectory of your thought process. The other day I was Vibin’ with therapist Whitley Grant, and she began talking about imposter syndrome. The more she talked, the more I realized: I am going to findContinue reading “Are You An Imposter?: Let’s Talk About Imposter Syndrome.”

Advice Steve Jobs Left Us With

The other day I was listening to Jay Shetty’s podcast ON PURPOSE. He made me remember Steve Jobs’s powerful commencement speech to the 2005 class of Stanford University. I am a huge Steve Jobs fan although he seemed as if he could be an incredibly difficult person. Despite what appeared to be a difficult personality, SteveContinue reading “Advice Steve Jobs Left Us With”

I Don’t Want To Go To College BUT I Need To Make Money

Not sure if a four-year college is for you and not really sure what you want to do with your life, but you know that you need to earn income? Have you considered a skilled trade? Women often overlook opportunities in the skilled trade sector because these careers have traditionally been considered jobs for men.Continue reading “I Don’t Want To Go To College BUT I Need To Make Money”

Don’t Believe The Hype Part IV: Don’t Quit Your Job!

WARNING: If you read this series and suddenly realized your A$! IS BURNED THE F%!K OUT, unless you are Warren Buffet or Bill Gates rich DO NOT QUIT YOUR JOB! If you do, you will be STRESSED THE F%IK OUT! AND THAT’S ON WHAT? THAT’S ON PERIODT!  Here is what some readers had to sayContinue reading “Don’t Believe The Hype Part IV: Don’t Quit Your Job!”

Don’t Believe The Hype Part III: Take the Burnout Test

Want to know where you fall on the burnout scale? I saw ABC News Chief Medical Correspondent Dr. Jennifer Ashton on a clip from Good Morning America talking about burnout. She said there are four questions you can ask yourself to determine if you are suffering from burnout.  WANT TO TAKE THE TEST? OKAY… RateContinue reading “Don’t Believe The Hype Part III: Take the Burnout Test”

Don’t Believe The Hype Part II: What is Burnout?

Burnout is not a new phenomenon. It seems that Herbert Freudenberger created the word “burnout” in 1974 when I was 3 years old. In his book, Burnout: The High Cost of High Achievement Freudenberger defined burnout as, “the extinction of motivation or incentive, especially where one’s devotion to a cause or relationship fails to produceContinue reading “Don’t Believe The Hype Part II: What is Burnout?”

DON’T BELIEVE THE HYPE PART I: I Am Burned Out!

I have been a litigator in Eastern North Carolina for 20 years. I have been a mother for 29 years, and for the most part, I have been a single mother to three girls who are 29, 20, and 11. I had my first daughter when I was 19 years old, a teenager. Although IContinue reading “DON’T BELIEVE THE HYPE PART I: I Am Burned Out!”

Small Business Help is Here

If you are anything like me: The demand for your services has sharply decreased as a result of COVID-19.  The decrease in demand means a reduction in cash flow.  You employ wonderful people who depend on you to pay them timely every month regardless of any crisis.  Your staff has financial obligations and cannot affordContinue reading “Small Business Help is Here”

IT HAS BEEN A MINUTE! I MISSED YOU GUYS!

Hi everyone! It has been such a busy time for me. I am really excited about everything going on in my life right now. Today I want to share two exciting things with you. FIRST THING: I have launched a podcast! Vibin’ With Tonza is a podcast about LIFE, LOVE & EMPOWERMENT! I am greatlyContinue reading “IT HAS BEEN A MINUTE! I MISSED YOU GUYS!”

BEHIND CLOSED DOORS

It’s here! My published short story, BEHIND CLOSED DOORS, is now available for purchase through the Kindle Store and it only cost $1.99. I wrote this series of short stories because I wanted to do my part to continue the conversation about domestic violence. I must say my inspiration came from a woman that IContinue reading “BEHIND CLOSED DOORS”