A Love Letter to Myself

What a GREAT WAY TO START A SUNDAY MORNING! Check out “A Love Letter to Myself” by guest blogger TAKIYA LEWIS, ESQ.

You have to remember who you are, what you want and what you deserve.  Sometimes what we want isn’t what God wants for us.  Walking away from it may be hard, it may even hurt, but you have to remember staying and settling for something is not the same as being blessed with something. How many examples can you think of where you let what you were settling for affect what you wanted and deserved?  It took me a while to realize that that’s what people mean when they say you are blocking your blessings.  As crazy as it sounds, not letting go of things that aren’t meant for you keeps you from receiving what is for you.  During those times, you have to take solace in the fact that while you may not have what you want, you will have exactly what you need.  In my experience, what you need is always better.

HOW MANY EXAMPLES CAN YOU THINK OF WHERE YOU LET WHAT YOU WERE SETTLING FOR AFFECT WHAT YOU WANTED AND DESERVED?

You cannot fall into the trap of trying to be who someone else wants you to be.  You cannot compromise your values to accommodate someone else.  If who you want doesn’t recognize who you are, you don’t need to have that person in your life.  Period.  You absolutely cannot have anyone in your life who causes you to second guess your gifts.  You cannot convince someone to love you the way you need to be loved.  For too long you’ve been too nervous or scared to say “I’m the prize”.  No longer.  You are the prize!  Not by the nature of what you have, but because you are who you are!  Your gifts won’t be wasted on the wrong person.  They won’t be taken for granted.  They’ll be acknowledged and appreciated.  You have to remember that you are amazing and there is no one like you and there will never be.  You don’t have to accept less than you deserve and hope that one day it will all work out.  You won’t be asking for too much from the right person. 

FOR TOO LONG YOU’VE BEEN TOO NERVOUS OR SCARED TO SAY “I’M THE PRIZE”.

Don’t cry.  God knows what you need.  Find your peace, whatever that may look like.  What you need is on the way.  

Takiya

Author: Tonza D. Ruffin

Perfectly Imperfect but VERY PROUD WOMAN, MOM, LAWYER, and AUTHOR, but most importantly...LIFE LOVER! I laugh loud, I work hard, I play hard, I am adventurous, I am curious, I am driven, I have moments of deep insecurity, I am loving, I am vulnerable, I am explosive (not one of my finer qualities), I dance around my house alone, I am an awful perfectionist which makes my insecurity worse, I sing out loud in my car without any concern for whose watching, I have trust issues, I do not live through my children, I no longer try to force my children into the mold that I created so that I could feel validated as a mother, I am a risk-taker, I am guarded in my personal life, I am kind, I am grateful. I am so excited about the rest of my life!

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